22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as [a service] to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church, Himself being the Savior of the body.
24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives should be subject to their husbands in everything [respecting both their position as protector and their responsibility to God as head of the house].
25 Husbands, love your wives [seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love], just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 so that He might sanctify the church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word [of God],
27 so that [in turn] He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy [set apart for God] and blameless.
28 Even so husbands should and are morally obligated to love their own wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own body, but [instead] he nourishes and protects and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members (parts) of His body.- Ephesians 5:22-30(AMP)
If you are considering marriage or you are married, I want you to take a few seconds to read and ponder on the above verses. What you see written in there is exactly God's instruction to you as a wife and a husband. If you follow these instructions in the spirit of love to Christ, I can guarantee that no matter what comes your way in your marital journey, you would overcome. I mean both for the man and his wife.
Marriage is the physical representation of a spiritual principle. Primarily, God instituted marriage for mankind as a response to "aloneness". But behind this physical reason is the spiritual reason of "aloneness" of man. Even though God's intention was not for man to fall into sin and ultimately become separated from Him, God had put in motion His plan to redeem man from the beginning. He had always had Jesus as the fulfillment of that plan to eventually birth the Church and develop the Church relationship. In a nutshell, how you treat your marriage (i.e. your spouse) as a believer is a reflection of how you are as a member within the Church (body of Christ).
31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined [and be faithfully devoted] to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
32 This mystery [of two becoming one] is great; but I am speaking with reference to [the relationship of] Christ and the church.
33 However, each man among you [without exception] is to love his wife as his very own self [with behavior worthy of respect and esteem, always seeking the best for her with an attitude of lovingkindness], and the wife [must see to it] that she respects and delights in her husband [that she notices him and prefers him and treats him with loving concern, treasuring him, honoring him, and holding him dear]. - Ephesians 5:31-33(AMP)
I want you to think and meditate on these verses. You did make a choice to follow Jesus, and that day, you became one with Him. Jesus left the comfort of heaven, and His glory as the ultimate sacrifice to give you this opportunity. The whole idea that you are one with Christ was first shown to you as marriage (as you can see in verse 31). If you love God and you know you are saved indeed, the depth of love and understanding of what Christ has done for you should continually sink into you. He has likened you as His bride, and He, the bridegroom (Matthew 25). Putting marriage on earth first before sending Jesus was a way of preparing us for His grand plan. In a way, God wanted you to have an idea of what it means to be one with Him. Therefore, I beseech you to treat your spouse right in accordance to the verses above. It is for your own good. Doing this would also help you continually appreciate God's sacrifice for your soul.
In conclusion, love and submit. As a believer, submit to Christ Jesus. As a man, love your wife. As a woman, submit to your husband. Let this cycle never break. As long as you are a husband who submits to Christ, loving your wife the way these verses instruct would not be hard. So it is with the wife who submits to Christ. The more you keep this order going in marriage, the resultant effect is a vibrant church filled with people who are able to take on more kingdom oriented tasks as against worrying over their marriages, homes and the negative effects that accompany them. I pray that divine wisdom attends to you in whatever situation your marriage is in right now. I declare peace over those problems in Jesus name, amen.
Have a blessed week!